Perhaps you have scraps of paper floating within your purse with accomplishments to be tackled.
Or is your desk drawer hiding those lists in which you had the best of intentions on getting them done?
If a list is long gone by now, yet you come across it in search of something else, then it is best that the hidden to do list was never tackled.
I say that because if you have forgotten about it, then what you had put on that list did not hold much value or priority for you.
I have come across a list or two to my surprise and after reading it realized that what I had set out to do was not what I really needed to focus on at that time.
One time I found a list of goals that I had written inside of a small notebook that went unnoticed for several years. It brought me joy to reminisce with what I wanted to do in that season of life.
And then I decided to choose some of those goals and add them into my current running list, finding that these still were applicable for me.
If you find a to do list or a set of goals that you have allowed to be hidden, then as you read through it ask yourself why this list got lost in the first place.
Maybe it was just the act of writing out what you needed to do that helped you sleep better that night. Or that what you put on this list was not realistic for you to do.
Either way, find the priority in what you wrote to yourself and determine what things on this list actually do need your attention.
Is a task you always wanted to get done now at the forefront of your mind? Is a dream written years ago now revived? Or can things that were once important now come to their end and be allowed to be forgotten?
We all have lost to do lists somewhere. It is normal and human for us to find ourselves so unorganized.
Let me encourage you today, however, to learn how to keep a to do list and/or goal list that will not be forgotten or hidden.
It happens to us all, even the highest of achievers that you know. There are moments where we do not feel like doing what we know we should be doing.
There is this dialogue in our heads as we hear the alarm clock going off. Should we get out of bed and start our day in this early hour as we planned to do, or do we hit the snooze button and turn back towards our pillow?
Having a disciplined lifestyle is not easy. It is hard work.
There are several walls we have to climb over to get to a mental space where we begin to follow through with our own promises to ourselves, and one of those walls is overcoming our emotions.
When we set off to conquer the world, we begin with great excitement and determination.
We are doing so well on day one to follow through with our new exercise plan and actually putting up the laundry all clean and folded. Then day two goes fairly well. We accidentally slept past our alarm and still somehow managed to do all we set out to do.
Then the third day comes, or for some of the lucky ones this day doesn’t come until a week or so later, but that “day” does come.
We wake up and we do not feel like keeping to our commitment of a disciplined life. And then the days following that awful day of defeat are followed by days of continual surrender to our own comfort and human desires.
Let me encourage you with something.
If you have a “I just don’t feel like it..” day, then allow that day to come and go, but refuse to let it derail you from what you really want to do and be.
Our emotions get the best of us at times and that is totally normal, we are human.
The key is whether or not we allow that emotionally driven day to conquer all our days afterwards. Many people give up on creating discipline in their lives because they have an all or nothing mentality.
You cannot live in that sort of mindset. Perfectionists do this all the time to themselves. They tell themselves if their choices are not perfect and they slip up, then it is over. They should just throw in the towel of defeat and give up on creating healthy habits in their lives.
No one is perfect.
When I have a day where I give into my emotions and do less than I would like to have done for that day, I choose to reset my mind and let the next new day be the day I get back on the horse.
I allow myself grace for the days I do not make the best choices and I forgive myself. I do not allow my thoughts to fall into a pit of failure, and I definitely refuse to identify myself with failure.
And when the disciplined behavior is a new one for us, our emotions will fight against this change hard. So to combat our emotions, we must become more determined in our own will to do what we set out to do. We must allow our will to override how we feel in the moment of doing the action.
There are tricks we can come up with to help us override our emotions. We can decide to place our alarm outside of our bedroom so we won’t be so quick to hit the snooze button, for example.
Tell yourself that you will more than likely not feel like doing what you really want to do. I know, it seems strange. We have a free will, but we also have our brain and body. We have to learn, by our determined will, to ignore the protest cries of our emotional thoughts and feelings and do what we must.
Once we get past this wall, knowing our emotions will fight against us, we will find ourselves not so easily distracted and move on with our preferred disciplined action. In short, learn to ignore your emotions when they try and get in the way of what you have already decided by your will to do.
If you search throughout the Bible you will see acts of obedience to God that were not easy and simple. A lot of those steps were filled with pain, but nonetheless the will of the Lord was followed through.
Hannah is no exception to this. Her following through with her vow to God to give Him her son had to be extremely painful indeed. Her act of obedience cost her dearly, yet she had a heart filled with praise and worship after she obeyed. And as a result of her obedience we have the prophet Samuel that was used to lead God’s people and anoint future kings.
We see the heart of God when He calls for obedience over sacrifice throughout His word. And I am confident that His desire for our obedience to Him is great because it reveals our hearts for Him. Jesus himself says, “if you love me, you will obey me.”
Moses was directed by God to save His people out of Egypt, no easy task that undoubtedly tore at his heart at different times.
Abraham was told to give up Isaac to the Lord to prove his faithfulness to God, and that day most definitely ripped his heart to pieces before he found relief that it was a test.
Numerous prophets of God were called to speak His word in the face of persecution, death and rejection from the people of God.
And we cannot forget our Lord Jesus, who walked out extremely painful steps of obedience throughout his ministry here on earth, all the way up to the cross.
All of these responses to obey the Lord were met with angst, grief and sometimes despair.
When I think back on my own life, I can definitely pinpoint specific callings to obey the Lord being met with some level of pain. Sometimes the pain was battling my own flesh, my want for comfort and not difficulty. Other times the pain was heartbreaking from the steps of obedience, such as moving abroad and away from dear family and friends. Pain was also involved in walking out His plans for my life that resulted with me sacrificing a personal dream or desire.
Pain in obedience is not a bad thing, however. It is hard to push through when pain is involved, but the rewards of following through with a commitment to obey God is always worth the struggle.
Choosing to obey the Lord reflects a heart that trusts Him in the calling, that knows He has a plan greater than we can imagine, and it is a good plan. It is believing that God works things out for our good and His purposes in the end, which are holy, just and righteous.
The pain is the result of us choosing to die to our flesh, our sinful nature and human desires, in order to see God’s will be followed through in us and around us.
Do not let a call with painful obedience hold you back from following through. The Lord is not out to crush and destroy us. The pain is temporary as this life is temporary, but our acts of love to God are always met with, “well done, good and faithful servant.”
Each year that her husband, Elkanah, takes his family up to Shiloh to worship and sacrifice to the Lord, Peninnah, Elkanah’s other wife and Hannah’s rival, provokes Hannah to tears.
And each year that Peninnah reminds Hannah of her closed womb, Hannah responds by allowing it to bring her to a place of such misery that she refuses to eat and refuses to be consoled by their husband Elkanah.
We do not know how many years this scene played out for Hannah, except to read that it was the same pattern that happened year after year. And every year Hannah would allow her rival to keep her in her misery.
If you find yourself in an unbroken cycle, repeating the same unwise decisions often or wallowing in your pity and defeated circumstances, then it is time to look into why this is happening.
God’s heart for each of us is to grow and mature in Him. And in order for us to grow and mature as He desires, we will be taken through the same testings and trials with different scenarios perhaps, over and over again.
Whenever I find myself in a very familiar test, instead of coming into agreement with the repetitive story line, I choose to reflect and ask the Lord some much needed questions.
I want to know God’s heart for me when He witnesses my unsuccessful attempts at breaking free. I have come around this bend before and I do not want to repeat my same mistakes.
I grapple with self doubt questioning if breaking the cycle is for me. Maybe I deserve to remain in this rut, to continue to suffer repeatedly, and to comfortably choose that this is the life for me.
Jesus, however, has told us that He came to give us life and to give it abundantly. So in honoring our free will, the Lord steps aside to see what we will choose to do with His promises He has already given us in His Word.
Will we believe Him? Will we agree to allow Him to break our unending cycles? Or shall we just lower our heads shuffling forward, refusing to catch sight of another way through this terrain?
Breaking unending cycles in our lives is possible. We see evidence of this in the lives of believers in the Bible, we see evidence of others breaking free of their own cycles around us, but why is it so difficult to believe that we are capable of having great faith to break free from our own repetitive patterns?
As we read in the first chapter of 1 Samuel, we see how Hannah breaks free of her unending cycle of torment from Peninnah by running to the Lord. Perhaps, that is a step of obedience we can do ourselves.
I challenge you to run to the Lord with your life patterns needing interruption and plead with Him to move on your behalf. Listen to what He tells you. He will provide action steps and help along the way, but we need to remain determined to follow through with everything He says.
For Hannah her greatest rival happens to live in close proximity to herself, for her rival is Peninnah, the other wife of her husband Elkanah. Hannah’s rival is sadly within her own family.
How many of us find ourselves battling a rival within as well? Within the walls of our churches, in our workplaces, or, much like Hannah, within our own families?
A rival that close has to be exhausting to put up with. To find the peace and solace that you are looking for seems almost impossible while another individual is set on competing with you.
I can only imagine how Hannah must have felt. None of us who find ourselves dealing with a personality that unceasingly provokes or taunts us, has invited this rival into our lives. And for Hannah, I am pretty certain that she did not want to find herself competing for the affection and love of her husband, but there she was, a victim of another’s jealous behavior.
How should we respond to those that behave this way?
Rivals are nothing more than bullies. They want to feel significant and do so through exerting power over another person.
The best way to deal with a bully is to not give them the satisfaction they are looking for. They want to get under your skin and move you to tears. They find a perverse satisfaction in causing harm to feel important.
The best way to respond to a rival and bully, is to not give them this sick satisfaction. It is in your best interest to ignore this behavior and see it as it is.
If I could talk with Hannah today, I would tell her the same thing. I would tell her to ignore Peninnah’s taunting and to see past the bullying into a heart that bleeds insecurity and a need for significance.
I would encourage Hannah to respond in kindness, love and forgiveness.
I would encourage her to continue to trust and wait on the Lord instead, shifting her focus from the negative attention she is getting to the character and faithfulness of God.
When rivals are found within our circles, or even our tight circles, it becomes more challenging to find an escape from the provoking. The constant barrage of mistreatment can weigh us down and discourage us from the hope of it ever stopping.
Although we cannot control the words and actions of others, as much as we would want to, we can control how we respond. Reminding ourselves that we have just as much free will to respond in a righteous way as they do in their choice to sin against us, places the power back into our hands.
God has given both the taunter and the victim free will.
Sure the bully hurts and provokes us, but we have the freedom to ignore, to walk away, to forgive, and to not give them the satisfaction of getting to us. If we allow the provoking to anger us, we are playing into their power trip and they win.
Rise above the rival’s games. See them as they are. They are revealing their heart to you when they bully you.
Be wise, be discerning, be kind, forgive and walk away. Eventually they will grow tired of you refusing to play their game.
If you are struggling more than usual with depression and/or anxiety in this crisis, acknowledge to yourself that there is definitely justification for your struggles.
Not only are you working hard and putting energy to maintain your mental health challenges, but now you have to put forth energy in dealing with this crisis of this virus.
Feeling safe is very crucial for us that battle with keeping our thoughts uplifted and our emotions stable. So when something like this crisis comes our way, our sense of safety and stability is threatened for sure.
Do not feel guilty if you need to restructure your day to deal with your new normal and your need to rest more. This is overwhelming for us all, even those that do not battle a mental illness.
As we put out more energy to deal with this crisis, I encourage you to watch how much sobering news you are feeding your mind. Give yourself healthy mental breaks from the onslaught of news and from scrolling social media.
If you feel your anxiety increasing, or your mood affected by being online or in front of a television, tell yourself to pull away and put your thoughts on something else.
I have to remind myself often that my brain responds to my thoughts and my thoughts are formed easily by what I feed my brain. Catch those negative thoughts and refuse them entry into your mind.
Instead choose to be thankful. Sit down and make a long list of things you are grateful for and what good things are happening in this chaos. There are good things happening and we need to be thankful for them.
I struggle with depression and anxiety as well. And I have to choose my thoughts every morning I wake up, throughout the day and even in the evening. It is a lot of work to remain mindful of where our thoughts are going, but we have to in order to keep our emotions from being dragged down into a pit.
I tell myself everyday that this season will end. And before we know it, we will all be back to our normal routines and visiting our friends and family. I tell myself that other countries are recovering and we will as well.
People will come out of this crisis changed. My hope is that the change is for the better. People will be more grateful, they will value their relationships more in this life, and they will not take for granted what we do have. That is a good thing.
Use this time to think about what you have learned thus far. Have you made time to process all of this in a healthy way? Have you seen yourself develop more resilience and even surprised yourself with how strong you have been already?
Life is difficult. And if you struggle with a mental illness as a result of this difficult life, know that you still have a choice in how you respond to what is going on. You can choose to give into your fears, or you can choose to work really hard and trust that you will overcome.
And if you have a bad day, that is totally okay. This is a strange and hard time and it is difficult to know what and who to believe in the news anymore. We have to remember that the media feeds off the fears of their audience, because these fears keeps the audience attached to their screens to learn more. That is normally their motives. They are definitely not finding ways to keep us calm and at peace, because then they will lose views and their audience.
We can outsmart those tactics and choose to manage our screen time, and choose to be in peace within this storm. So enjoy a cup of coffee, have a second cookie, pull out that puzzle you wanted to put together, and look for what is good and right in our world to focus on.
We can play “what if..” all day, but that is not healthy for our minds. Fearing the unknown is fearing what could happen, but it does not mean it will happen. Treat those thoughts as unfriendly and as instigators of your fear.
And when it gets overwhelming, repeat to yourself and your brain that you are safe, because you are. And repeat to yourself that there is always an end to a storm, and this will end.
And if you have faith in the Lord, pray and choose to trust that He is in control and you and your family are in His hands. Nothing in this world separates you from the love of the Lord, and definitely not this virus.
Praying peace over you my friends and fellow overcomers of this crisis.
If you need help and are struggling with suicidal thoughts please seek help. All we need is to get through those dark moments and the sun will shine again. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Stay safe and healthy!
Extreme burnout from work and life is a horrible experience to endure and the aftermath and healing can take years to recover. Other times burnout can be a short lived season that with just a career change or rearranged priorities the energy level and mood returns to normal.
I would hope that most of us only experience the latter type of burnout, however, I am finding that undergoing extreme burnout is becoming more prevalent in certain careers because we do not protect ourselves.
I focus on time management a great deal in my life, because I have a strong motivation to protect myself from extreme burnout again. I have experienced it and am still to this day in recovery.My brain will not allow me to push myself with work as hard as I used to. However, this compels me to have to live a more balanced and healthy lifestyle and I am thankful for that.
I have to make sure that I plan out days for rest and fun and vacation. My love for what I do, for work and getting things accomplished can easily push out the times I need for rest and play. I now have to schedule these into my life to protect myself from burnout.
I have to re-evaluate my heart consistently with why I do what I do. This keeps me in check with not having a misplaced motive, or a wrong priority that compels me to be a workaholic. Am I valuing my to-do list over building on relationships? Am I working long hours to avoid pain in my heart I need to deal with? Am I becoming a workaholic again?
I also evaluate my work and life goals. Are they still consistent with what I value in my life? Do they bring me joy and move me towards a life that I want to pursue? Do I need to re-write or eliminate any goal that is putting way too much stress on me or is now irrelevant?
I encourage you to explore why you have possibly burned out in the past. Understanding why will help us learn what not to do in the present to keep us from burning out again. This is a simple “learning from our mistakes”.
I now know why I fell into extreme burnout. It has taken me a good length of time spent exploring what happened and what mindsets I had in that season that needed to change. For example, I was placing my identity in what I did and in my title, rather than in who I really am. The end result was, after losing my career in that season, I fell a part and had to reform my foundation again and my identity without my career.
Above all remember to take time to care for yourself. Work will always be there, the to-do list will never end, and the house can be cleaned tomorrow. We put too much pressure on ourselves to do more and more. We need to be kinder to ourselves and recognize that we are just a human and humans have limits and needs. Let us choose to live healthily within those boundary lines instead of testing them so often.
I super thrive on being more efficient with my use of time, because I enjoy doing, accomplishing, and being a part of a lot of things.
I have three large projects that I am currently working on and managing. Each project requires a lot of energy and time, and so I have had to weigh the sacrifices I need to make in order to commit to each of them. And I did this carefully.
When we make a decision to commit ourselves to something, that will mean that something else we are already a part of or are already doing will need to be eliminated. A swap out if you wish.
Our greatest mistake is committing to things without thinking of the time it will take in order for us to do them. We feel that we have extra time to give here and there, however, just like you would not throw your money away, you should also take care with how you use your time. If you have a bank account and begin to spend what is in the bank account, you will eventually have less money in that account and it is the same with your time.
We need to treat time the same way we do our money. Both are valuable, but perhaps time is more valuable for most.
We need to realize and picture how committing our time to something is like drawing money from our bank. I don’t know about you, but if I do not know what is in my account I will also think twice before pulling anything out of it.
Know what is in your TIME ACCOUNT. Know how much ENERGY is in there as well, because the time you give away will also pull on your energy levels.
I tend to overcommit myself to projects, whether they be other people’s projects or my own. I am also an over achiever who struggles with perfectionism. And I have a strong need to get things accomplished as an individual with an adoring type A personality. (Adoring might be too strong of a word, sorry.)
Because of all this I am always looking for ways to better manage my time. I, sadly, am almost obsessed with it actually.
I believe that managing our time well is a huge key with us WORKING SMARTER RATHER THAN HARDER. And if we work smarter then we save ourselves energy from working too hard. Now we can place those saved energy deposits into other things or things that we enjoy doing.
One of my greatest temptations with all of this, however, is when I have saved energy and time deposits, from being so proficient with my time, I want to pour those deposits into new projects. This is also not wise, and I am definitely speaking to myself here.
It is better for us to take those saved time and energy deposits and spend them on rest and caring for ourselves. We can easily become overworked even with good time management skills. I know this because I am guilty of this the most!
I struggle with getting something done quickly and then looking off to the next thing I can tackle and accomplish instead of allowing myself and brain to rest.
It is very important for us to work smarter rather than harder. Simply put, we do not want to waste time and energy with doing tasks the hard way. How we set up daily, weekly, and monthly systems in our lives to get our tasks accomplished is important in reserving our time and energy.
Let us look at the simple to-do list. There are folks that have to-do lists everywhere, on their mirrors at home, in drawers in their kitchen or workshops, and on the dashboard of their cars for example. Having your to-do list in ten thousand locations is not using your time and energy well. I promise you are spending a lot of your time looking for those lists and the sheer number of them are overwhelming your brain and draining your energy. An easy fix is to consolidate all these lists in a notebook.
Sounds easy, but if we evaluate our systems we have adopted over the years, we can be surprised at what I call the loopholes in our systems that equate to us wasting our time.
Take an evening in your week and write out the systems you use to plan your schedule and get things done, and honestly answer if you can tweak them a bit to be more proficient in your time, thus saving you a bit more energy. You might think this is ridiculous, but those small moments saved over time can offer you a free hour or two that you have gained back to go to a movie or plan a visit to the park.
Bullies are attracted to nice people. They see them as easy prey and less likely to fight back. The bully wants a punching bag that will not punch back. The bully wants to feel power over another life because they are struggling themselves on the inside.
I am a nice person. I have had my share of bullies in my life. I have been tackled to the ground on a playground by another kid. I have had nasty notes written to me put in my locker in middle school. I have been ridiculed for being too nice in social settings as an adult.
And I would not change my niceness for the world. I choose to be nice for a reason.
Let me take you back when I used to be a floor supervisor working at a nice Mexican restaurant in Houston. To get that supervisor position I had to convince my General Manager, who I deeply respect, that my niceness would not prevent me from getting my job done, which was to get the wait staff to do what I told them.
I could tell he really wanted to put me in that supervisor position. He saw my work ethic and how I interacted graciously with the guests in the restaurant, but when it came to me asking if he would consider promoting me, he had his main objection.
Then one day we had another conversation about it and he asked me if I was certain that others would follow my orders as a leader. I assured him that they would. He then asked me if I would get them to follow instructions by becoming strict and firm, like he was. I told him, honestly, that I would get them to follow me as their leader by other means.
He did not believe that this was possible, but he decided to promote me anyways. I guess he was interested in seeing how I would do this.
This was not my first job I had, nor was it the first time for me to be on a management team, and so I had confidence in how I would lead my staff with my personality and how I engage with people.
I got my staff to follow my lead by showing them each a lot of respect. Anytime they did something well, I acknowledged it and I thanked them for their hard work. If any of them called in because they had an emergency, I used my best judgement and discernment to see if they were pulling one over on me. I believed them when they were late to their shift because they needed to rush their pet to the vet, and I awarded others that helped me with taking up extra shifts for me.
I essentially would put myself in their shoes and ask myself how I would want to be treated. And a lot of them worked side by side with me before I was promoted to be their supervisor.
In the end, my General Manager came to me and said that I had the best turnout with staffed shifts and that everyone enjoyed working when I was on the floor supervising. He could not understand how I got them to work so hard for me, and without me changing how I lead and my personality.
I told him that I sincerely cared about each one of them, and that they could see that. And when I was in a tough spot filling up a shift with enough waiters, someone would come through for me because they liked me and wanted to help me.
Nobody on the wait staff was intimidated by me, but they worked hard for me. I still disciplined and corrected wrongs, but I did so as fairly as I could. The staff knew I was nice and they also knew I had a kind heart towards them.
If you are getting through this life thinking that being nice and kind will not benefit you, I encourage you to rethink that. At the heart of it, people want to be respected, they want to be treated well and looked after, and they can see your intentions behind your actions and choices.
I have gotten pushback for being a nice person from people in my life. Some feared that my niceness would prevent me from setting up proper boundaries or be wise with how I interact with others.
And then of course there are those that always want to take advantage of your niceness. I have been hurt by these people, but each time I learn and I am able to better discern motives the next time.
One things for sure, I choose to not allow what others think of my niceness, or even the hurt that sometimes comes with it, to change who I am. I choose to be nice, and not because this world needs a huge dose of niceness, but because being nice to someone goes a whole lot further than being ugly to them.
Try it out for yourself. The next time you interact with a cashier, or someone behind the counter, respond with kindness and patience and see how they respond. When we value people, even strangers, it leaves on them an imprint that can improve their mood, their day, or even their week. Sure, some will not respond in kind, but you can return home, tuck yourself in bed and be proud of yourself for choosing to care for others anyways.
How we treat others, in our families, in our friend circles, and even strangers, reflects who we are on the inside.
When putting together a Self Worth series of content, you cannot leave out our ugly friend, rejection. We have all faced rejection in our lives and I have, yet, to meet a soul that has not been dealt a hand of rejection.
I woke up this morning with a series of dreams. Each dream had something to do with rejection. It was crazy! I pondered on them for a good few minutes when I realized that this was definitely a needed focal point in my next video and obviously, blog post.
So you can say, my dreams are the inspiration of today’s blog post and my video on the same subject.
Rejection and abandonment do cause us to battle with our sense of self worth. It does something to us when we are rejected. For one thing, it makes us feel so unloved. Feeling unloved can cause us to think that we are not lovable.
Let us look at an image of an abandoned puppy on the side of the road. He is dirty, he is hungry, and he is frightened. Someone has rejected that puppy. Was it his mother? Was it his owner?
Then, out of nowhere, a nice human approaches this poor abandoned puppy and decides to take it as its’ own.
The human cares for it, feeds it, bathes it, and the puppy begins to appear healthy.
What has taken place is quite simple. The puppy’s current dose of love and affection has helped to heal his past rejection. We will never see this puppy appear the same as it did on the streets. Love given to this puppy erased the feelings of being unloved and abandoned.
In our lives we will experience rejection. It will come in different ways and sometimes from people we least expect it. We cannot protect ourselves from these moments, but we can overcome the feelings of being unloved and feeling we are unloveable.
We can work on our rejected hearts and battle these mindsets that are not healthy nor true.
If we are not chosen for a particular job we are being interviewed for, or turned down by a love interest, or our current business idea is not being received well, how can and should we respond?
We go back to our truth statements that we chose to believe for ourselves. (see previous blog post, “Dots On My Hand”) We go back to remembering who we are and the value we do have inside of us. We choose to love ourselves in response and be okay with not being chosen back.
We make up in our mind a resolute belief that we are worthy of being loved, we are valuable, and we are enough.
Honestly, we need to think of ourselves as the puppy that was rescued off the streets and worth being taken in and cared for. True, we have a history full of rejection and sadly, for some of us even abandonment, but just like this puppy who was once rejected, we can allow the truth of our real worth to permeate our minds and become our new belief about ourselves and choose to leave our past behind us.
We all want to be received and loved. That’s how we are made. But until we receive and love ourselves for who we really are, it will be difficult for others to believe we are lovable.
People that do not love themselves behave in a way that reflects this belief about themselves, that they are unlovable. This behavior can be read by others much like a frightened animal that is wounded. People do not want to come near a wounded individual like this because they are more than likely going to lash out or cause them harm.
Hurt people hurt others. This is very true. If we want to not be pushed away as much as we are, then we need to allow our wounds in our hearts and souls to be healed. We focus on our healing and on loving ourselves, and others will discover our worth and value that was already there.
Choose today to not allow your rejections in your past to determine who you are today and your future. Choose to heal, choose to accept and love yourself. Believe you are lovable and you will be loved.. and by the right people.
