When putting together a Self Worth series of content, you cannot leave out our ugly friend, rejection. We have all faced rejection in our lives and I have, yet, to meet a soul that has not been dealt a hand of rejection.
I woke up this morning with a series of dreams. Each dream had something to do with rejection. It was crazy! I pondered on them for a good few minutes when I realized that this was definitely a needed focal point in my next video and obviously, blog post.
So you can say, my dreams are the inspiration of today’s blog post and my video on the same subject.
Rejection and abandonment do cause us to battle with our sense of self worth. It does something to us when we are rejected. For one thing, it makes us feel so unloved. Feeling unloved can cause us to think that we are not lovable.
Let us look at an image of an abandoned puppy on the side of the road. He is dirty, he is hungry, and he is frightened. Someone has rejected that puppy. Was it his mother? Was it his owner?
Then, out of nowhere, a nice human approaches this poor abandoned puppy and decides to take it as its’ own.
The human cares for it, feeds it, bathes it, and the puppy begins to appear healthy.
What has taken place is quite simple. The puppy’s current dose of love and affection has helped to heal his past rejection. We will never see this puppy appear the same as it did on the streets. Love given to this puppy erased the feelings of being unloved and abandoned.
In our lives we will experience rejection. It will come in different ways and sometimes from people we least expect it. We cannot protect ourselves from these moments, but we can overcome the feelings of being unloved and feeling we are unloveable.
We can work on our rejected hearts and battle these mindsets that are not healthy nor true.
If we are not chosen for a particular job we are being interviewed for, or turned down by a love interest, or our current business idea is not being received well, how can and should we respond?
We go back to our truth statements that we chose to believe for ourselves. (see previous blog post, “Dots On My Hand”) We go back to remembering who we are and the value we do have inside of us. We choose to love ourselves in response and be okay with not being chosen back.
We make up in our mind a resolute belief that we are worthy of being loved, we are valuable, and we are enough.
Honestly, we need to think of ourselves as the puppy that was rescued off the streets and worth being taken in and cared for. True, we have a history full of rejection and sadly, for some of us even abandonment, but just like this puppy who was once rejected, we can allow the truth of our real worth to permeate our minds and become our new belief about ourselves and choose to leave our past behind us.
We all want to be received and loved. That’s how we are made. But until we receive and love ourselves for who we really are, it will be difficult for others to believe we are lovable.
People that do not love themselves behave in a way that reflects this belief about themselves, that they are unlovable. This behavior can be read by others much like a frightened animal that is wounded. People do not want to come near a wounded individual like this because they are more than likely going to lash out or cause them harm.
Hurt people hurt others. This is very true. If we want to not be pushed away as much as we are, then we need to allow our wounds in our hearts and souls to be healed. We focus on our healing and on loving ourselves, and others will discover our worth and value that was already there.
Choose today to not allow your rejections in your past to determine who you are today and your future. Choose to heal, choose to accept and love yourself. Believe you are lovable and you will be loved.. and by the right people.
