Fear.
It can be a beast when you have something new and great in your heart to do. For myself personally, I have allowed fear to hold me back way too many times in my life. I can even share that my fear to do something brilliant, but perhaps out of the norm, has been a HUGE reason of why I’ve been stuck in my life at various times.
Now, underneath the fear could be a whole set of insecurities, doubts, and what if’s. However our emotions are described, if fear is involved then we can name fear as the main instigator. Our brains work real hard to keep us safe and comfortable, and anything we want to do that is different or has risk to it, we quickly hear our brains giving us a plethora of reasons why we should not do it.
But we have something stronger within us then just our brains at work, we have a will. Our will can and has surpassed our brains alerting us to danger. I mean, just think of a time when you were young, where you knew the danger of doing such and such, and yet, you still did it anyways.
We maybe can sum that up as us just being immature, but you have to admit we had more courage back then. We saw the world as ours to conquer, until the world brought us hurt and pain. Now, to convince ourselves to do anything out of the box takes more guts and courage than we ever needed in our lives.
When I was grappling with starting this business, I spent a lot of time going back and forth in my head of why I should and why I should not start it. The truth was that I was afraid to step into who I knew I was meant to be. I had enough experience, enough skills, but for two years I refused to budge.
Why was this? Well, fear, insecurities, and not believing what I knew to be true about myself. I saw myself through skewed lenses, and admit openly, that I still put up a fight with seeing myself this way.
The truth is I know myself. I know my weaknesses and my strengths. I know my insecurities and self-doubts. And I know that I struggle immensely with “not being good enough”, and measuring myself up against others and thinking for some strange reason that they are better.
But the greater truth is that everyone is exactly like this. All of us have an understanding of our weaknesses and strengths, our own feelings that we don’t measure up, and our issues with comparing ourselves way too much with others. In short, we are all humans who grapple with fear on the daily.
Moving past that daily dose of fear, ignoring it as we should, and stepping into a life that we desperately want for ourselves can be possible.
How is it possible, you ask? Well, for starters recognizing that you are not alone in your fear of moving out of being stuck. There are plenty of people that find themselves in the same boat. What can differentiate us from them, is making a choice by our will, to move past the fear into action.
Fear will not entirely go away, and when we come to that understanding in our lives, then we can move towards working around it instead of against it. And to do this we have to begin to believe truths about ourselves that scream louder than our fears.