Sometimes God is behind the struggle we are being faced with. This doesn’t sound pleasant to hear, believe me I know, but it can bring the understanding you are searching for.
And if the enemy is just messing with you, God can still use your trial to do something beautiful within you!
I try very hard to not quickly blame a hard circumstance on spiritual warfare alone, making it a point to see what the Lord is doing in it. When we realize that much of our life leads us towards personal growth and maturing in the Lord, we will accept what we are walking through and posture ourselves humbly before God.
Our Lord is loving and kind! He loves you so much that He wants to see you step into the daughter or son He sees in you to be.